Kunyaza - The Art of ForeplayFebruary 27, 2021

Originally from Rwanda, east-central Africa, the Kunyaza sexual practice triggers female ejaculation and multiple orgasms in women during heterosexual encounters. The Kunyaza technique is also practiced in Uganda and Kenya, where it is known as Kachabali.

 Benefits of Kunyaza include:

• Facilitates female ejaculation and/or `squirting,
• Triggers multiple orgasms in women,
• Brings women to climax in less than five minutes,
• Helps men last longer in the bedroom,
• Enhances female pleasure,
• Stimulation of the K-Spot,
• An effective treatment for female orgasmic disorder.

Female ejaculation is not a rare phenomenon. A recent UK found that almost 40 per cent of the 1,250 women surveyed had ejaculated fluid at the moment of climaxing. Rwandans interviewed for this story said it’s fairly rare to find women who cannot achieve Kunyaza – they are called Mukagatare, a derogatory name in Kinyarwanda meaning ‘rock-woman’. In Sacred Water (2016), a documentary about the practice, sexologist Vestine Dusabe estimates 80 or 90 percent of Rwandan women ‘have water’. What matters is the man’s ability to make it happen.

Sex is for the woman. This is because the man has to please her and put her body in a certain state. Her pleasure is the most important thing.

According to a myth passed down from generation to generation, during the third dynasty of the Rwandan monarchy the queen’s husband went away to war. Left unsatisfied by his absence, she instructed one of her royal guards to have sex with her. The guard was nervous, so when he went to obey his order, his body trembled against her – his penis shook against her clitoris and labia, rather than penetrating. This made the queen ejaculate for the first time. Upon his return, the queen asked her husband to perform this act on her. The ritualistic practice which helps women achieve kunyaza – crudely known in the West as squirting – was born.

The queen proves herself to have needs which she finds a way of satisfying, demonstrating sexual independence and control over her body. Though this is much more common today, there are still many women around the world who do not have, or do not feel that they have, these freedoms.

Traditionally, the ability to make a woman ejaculate is a central feature of Rwandan masculinity – which in other ways does not differ from stereotypical such as appearing tough, unemotional, demonstrating dominance over women, and fulfilling the role of protector

In one sense, then, Kunyaza is not necessarily an emancipatory feminist practice; it can sit comfortably with male control over the woman’s body. Yet, during sex, Rwandan women lay back to enjoy an experience which prioritizes their pleasure.

Kunyaza is for the man and for the woman, because there is synchronization. This is important in a relationship. It’s not about you ordering the other person what to do or using force or abusing a woman

While there's no required waiting period before you can have sex again after childbirth, many health care providers recommend waiting to have sex until four to six weeks after delivery, regardless of the delivery method. The risk of having a complication after delivery is highest during the first two weeks after delivery. But waiting will also give your body time to heal. In addition to postpartum discharge and vaginal tears, you might experience fatigue, vaginal dryness, pain and low sexual desire. If you had a vaginal tear that required surgical repair, you might need to wait longer. After the said time period ,if you are well healed, cuddling & Kunyaza is the best step to overcome your sexual inhibitions .

How to do Kunyaza?

During Kunyaza, the man rythemetically & continuously strikes the glans of the clitoris with the glans of his erect penis,which he takes in his hand or his index & middle finger. He moves it vertically and horizontally and with zig zag motion.This will lubricate the vulva and eventually leads to squirting.

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